In memoriam

December 26, 2008, on the way for a family post-Christmas day gathering, Phil and Louie (Louise) Baldwin Rieman hit a patch of ice, spun out and were hit by a tow truck, killing them instantly.

Phil and Louie were a married pastoral team, Sudan peacemaking missionaries, loving advocates for glbt persons and those who are marginalized by the church.....and two individuals who brought God's shalom to countless numbers. The Church of the Brethren has been struck by a stunned stand still as the word spreads quickly via phone, facebook, email, embraces and silent meditation of their deaths.

I have a memory. They were about 20 years older than me, and when I was a freshman in high school, my mother felt strongly that the youth of our church should have some solid (progressive) sex education from a religious perspective. She invited Phil and Louie to our church for a weekend long youth "lock in". We talked about everything that weekend, all centered on the love Christ calls us to. Because most of us had grown up together from infancy, there was a great deal of comfortableness in the conversation....a lot of humor during the embarrassing moments....but it was a deeply safe place to learn about our bodies, desire, responsible sexuality, realities of irresponsible sexuality....loving ourselves and others. I know that my own sexual health stems from this bold and open discussion.

While the talk about sex and stuff was interesting, eye opening, great fun, and serious business.....one thing that I've always taken from that weekend was the desire to be like Phil and Louie. I wanted to be wise, and open, and able to talk about uncomfortable subjects in comfortable ways. I wanted to be able to infuse wisdom and reflection into ordinary everyday conversations.

Phil and Louie went to the Sudan several times. It was their great ministerial love. I recall one story Phil and Louie shared about civil war in Sudan, where the women of both sides grouped together, refused sex to their husbands if the fighting continued. They were tired of their husbands dying, their sons dying, their brothers dying....and they used the only power they had. Phil and Louie brokered peace talks, they taught peace in war torn villages in a way that was not theory but reality.....

They made a difference. They will not be remembered just as nice people. There will be thousands of stories told of the impact that can be made by faithful individuals who take living the life that Christ teaches to live seriously, lovingly, compassionately, invitingly and without fail. If the Church of the Brethren had saints, Phil and Louie would be sainted. But we don't. Instead, all of us who have been shaped by their witness must let that impact grow....that the kindom of God may be felt by many more.

God bless Phil and Louie Baldwin Rieman. Amen.